What Is Love Without Real Risks?

I've read a lot within the past week about what makes a relationship work and what doesn't.  People say they live their own life and they live it their own way but in fact they live by the standards of society.  When it comes to love, we make our own rules.  Forget societal norms, that's the thinking that leads you down the aisle with the safe person while the one that sets your heart on fire, quietly watches from afar.  When it comes to love, bravery is necessary.  What is love without real risks? What is it without consequences?

 We have that one crash and burn situation of our lifetime that makes us know the feeling but we're afraid to chase it again.  The pain from love lost shows us just how strong and powerful the feeling of love is on its own.  It changes us for the better.  Before you fall you walk towards someone.  You may like their bed game, the way they are with their friends, the way they are with their families or it can be an unexplainable attraction.  A relationship sets its own standards through formation.  That's why, when they come to an end or are tested we go back to the early entry days.  It brings clarity in times of fogginess.  

We like to know that we are onto something major.  We often ask our closest friends or even parents questions regarding relationships and dating.  It is usually a question formed around a specific issue we are currently dealing with.  The real answer is there are no answers, well answers anyone outside of that particular relationship can answer.  We decide what type of love we want and what kinds of relationships we can be in.  Society tries to have us programmed to think the same, it is easy to track and understand something that is viewed as normal behavior.  What is normal exactly? There are dating dos and don'ts.  Who created them? Who said the standard will be applicable to us all? There aren't, in fact we know they aren't but many of us aren't brave enough to be anything different.

Bravery is required for love and therefore relationships.  Along with compromising, sharing values, sharing futures and more, bravery is a very important part of the relationship recipe.  You need it to keep the fire burning, to take the risks with your partner, so that you can always feel like your relationship is alive.  Love in fact sets us free.  It's like watching a couple share a secret, there is something intriguing about it to others.  We love to hate the rom coms that portray this sort of love, it is the unconditional, beyond the shadow of doubt kind of love, but there is always some conflict that holds the lovers back.  This conflict usually revolves around the lack of bravery on one or both of their parts.  You have to be willing to fight for your happiness and to stay in deep love there is a certain degree of mutual understanding.  If you're the safe person, you'll probably never fully experience anything in life, especially love.  If you're the more daring type, you probably have experienced many life changing loves and it makes you a more relate-able person in fact because your experiences are broader, you can understand more.

Get crazy! Get loud! Be bold! And love hard! At the end of the day, this is the only life we'll get, so make it unforgettable.